Overly worried or spidey sense?

I find it exceedingly hard to know whether I am being overprotective with regard to Jack and daycare or if this is mommy spidey sense (leaving Jack at daycare yesterday when he was upset just felt wrong and I cried the whole way home).  Obviously, I’m biased when it comes to my kid.  I don’t tend to be overprotective in most cases (Joe has said to me on a number of occasions “he doesn’t hurt himself when I’m watching him”) but perhaps this is one of the instances where I see danger where there isn’t really any.

A combination of bawling upon dropping off and picking up (and also upon anyone opening the door at daycare – i.e. when other parents are dropping off their kids), small bruises on his legs and arm (and a casual mention that Jack insists on climbing chairs and fell off of one yesterday but “he was okay and didn’t even cry”), and a cat scratch from the kid-hating kitty make me nervous.  Additionally, the daycare lady said that she lays him down with a bottle and he goes right to sleep.  I absolutely can’t imagine Jack doing that.  In fact, when my friend Sabrina tried that Jack freaked out.  So it doesn’t really add up to me.  I even emailed our last daycare provider to get her opinion and she also thought that was out of character.

On the other hand, it’s only been a week and he’s teething.  We got in that car accident last week and that caused a mild disturbance.  Maybe it’s all just an adjustment period, but how is one to know?  Especially when we don’t have a great track record with daycare…

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  1. Hmmm….I don’t know if you’re overreacting or not, but I’d say it’s better to trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, then you should think about finding another daycare. I don’t remember you ever mentioning having bad feelings about leaving him with the other daycare providers, and I definitely think it’s important for you to feel good about who you leave Jack with. If this daycare is making you nervous, then it might be better for both you and Jack to move on to another one (in my opinion).

  2. Hmmm….I don’t know if you’re overreacting or not, but I’d say it’s better to trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, then you should think about finding another daycare. I don’t remember you ever mentioning having bad feelings about leaving him with the other daycare providers, and I definitely think it’s important for you to feel good about who you leave Jack with. If this daycare is making you nervous, then it might be better for both you and Jack to move on to another one (in my opinion).

  3. I don’t know him or you very well, but I’m a little freaked out about that, too. Do you have any back-up daycares? (I know…)

  4. I don’t know him or you very well, but I’m a little freaked out about that, too. Do you have any back-up daycares? (I know…)

  5. As much as finding another day care is going to suck, I think you should trust your gut. On the one hand, the poor thing is teething, had the accident and recently moved. BUT, that shouldn’t lead to the out of character behavior you’re noticing – nor the defensive answers from the current caregiver.

  6. As much as finding another day care is going to suck, I think you should trust your gut. On the one hand, the poor thing is teething, had the accident and recently moved. BUT, that shouldn’t lead to the out of character behavior you’re noticing – nor the defensive answers from the current caregiver.

  7. Show up unanounced. I am a home care provider and I have to say that the kids here do things that their parents say they never do at home. Eating well and sleeping well are 2 things. They go along with the flow better when everyone is doing it. Also, My little kiddos do fall down and get bruised often but I also give them free range to explore what their little bodies can do…climbing,running,crashing. They love to crash! That said…you need to feel comfortable so just show up and see what is going on. Show up a couple times over the next week at different times of the day. Then you can be sure.
    Think of it like this….Would you hand over your house, car keys, and bank account to this person? Your baby is your life and you need to be sure you feel good!! Oh, and to the other comment, stress does make a difference!!

  8. Show up unanounced. I am a home care provider and I have to say that the kids here do things that their parents say they never do at home. Eating well and sleeping well are 2 things. They go along with the flow better when everyone is doing it. Also, My little kiddos do fall down and get bruised often but I also give them free range to explore what their little bodies can do…climbing,running,crashing. They love to crash! That said…you need to feel comfortable so just show up and see what is going on. Show up a couple times over the next week at different times of the day. Then you can be sure.
    Think of it like this….Would you hand over your house, car keys, and bank account to this person? Your baby is your life and you need to be sure you feel good!! Oh, and to the other comment, stress does make a difference!!

  9. You really need to trust your gut on this one. I know it is very difficult to find good daycare, but it does exist. If his behavior doesn’t settle in…he may need a change.

  10. You really need to trust your gut on this one. I know it is very difficult to find good daycare, but it does exist. If his behavior doesn’t settle in…he may need a change.

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