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I never thought I’d:

  • Co-sleep (totally fell into that one, and I’m glad!)
  • Get excited about diapers (cloth will do that to ya if you are a lover of fabric)
  • Yell (I do my best to hold it in, but when the kid smacks me right in the face, I sometimes lose my temper)
  • Give my son a pacifier

I’m proud of myself for:

  • sticking with cloth diapers, despite the naysayers
  • having a somewhat natural labor (while I did consent to induction, I managed to forgo pain meds) despite the naysayers
  • breastfeeding for 17 months and counting, despite the many problems we encountered
  • pumping at work for 15+ months (which will hopefully be over in a few short weeks), although I didn’t find this too difficult – it ended up being a great time to get reading in
  • going against the norm and not circumcising my son
  • using the pacifier only sparsely (and we haven’t used one for about a year now)
  • educating myself on foods, particularly allergenics, so as to avoid nuts, chocolate, etc. in my <2 yo (especially since food issues run in my husband’s family, and because Jack already has a pea allergy)
  • keeping Jack’s baby book up-to-date
  • sticking to my ideals
  • limiting television (I would get rid of the tv if it was only up to me), especially Baby Einstein

Things I aim to be better at:

  • scrutinizing vaccinations (we will say no to the chicken pox and flu vaccines, but I need to understand the vaccine debate better in general)
  • cooking more meals from scratch
  • attending more play dates
  • figuring out how to get Jack to sit still long enough to get his nails clipped regularly
  • getting more “me” time
  • emergency preparedness (I still have to get a will together, and acquire a first aid kit; I am scheduled to learn CPR next week)
  • saying no to gifts that don’t fit in with our gender neutrality and no sports rules (unfortunately there is the little voice in my head that tells me I’m being ungrateful, but I would rather seem ungrateful than compromise on what I feel is best for my child) – I manage to say no about 80% of the time but sometimes I let things slide when I shouldn’t
  • improving the parenting partnership with my husband
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Comments

  1. Can I ask why no sports? That is – is it because you don’t want to enforce the gender stereotype, or because you don’t like sports themselves? Or something else I haven’t thought of?

  2. p.s. I’m proud of you too! That’s an awesome list of accomplishments.

  3. I totally thought I’d have a kid on a pacifier – and he will. not. take one. sigh.

  4. The no sports rule is partially due to the gender stereotypes and partially due to the indoctrination aspect of how sports are introduced to many kids. I don’t want Jack to be declared a fan of anything – I want him to choose that for himself when he is ready. It is partially a reaction on my part to watching family members who grew up in sports and defined themselves by that, then suffered after getting out of school because they lost that identity. And then I see my husband watching football and it seriously RUINS his day if his team loses. He gets depressed, and it’s not just a game to him. We both agree that he did not *choose* to be a Packer fan.

    So, it’s probably misleading to say “no sports” because it’s not like we are withholding balls and stuff from him. But we don’t allow sports themed clothing and we don’t want him watching televised games (although this happens sometimes since Joe watches them).

    And, thank you!

  5. Sports love is nonexistent in my immediate family, so I hadn’t even thought of the whole idea of a baby being a “fan” of a team – I was thinking in more generalities. I didn’t disagree before, but now I really agree! That is scary. We are totally cool with sports stuff if it is not overdone, but I would probably reject team stuff beyond a point (Sam has a hand-me-down Yankees cap, which I think is absolutely fine since it just says NY and my whole family is from NY, but I think that’s as far as I’d be willing to go). Since we don’t ever watch any sports on TV, Sam is unlikely to get the idea that he’s supposed to like a certain team. I do want to take him to baseball games later, because I think they are really fun, but I root for whoever’s at bat so the closest he’d come to learning team loyalty is learning that it’s considered good manners to root for the home team.

    Sorry, I’m rambling, this is a lot to think about!

  6. Sports love is nonexistent in my immediate family, so I hadn’t even thought of the whole idea of a baby being a “fan” of a team – I was thinking in more generalities. I didn’t disagree before, but now I really agree! That is scary. We are totally cool with sports stuff if it is not overdone, but I would probably reject team stuff beyond a point (Sam has a hand-me-down Yankees cap, which I think is absolutely fine since it just says NY and my whole family is from NY, but I think that’s as far as I’d be willing to go). Since we don’t ever watch any sports on TV, Sam is unlikely to get the idea that he’s supposed to like a certain team. I do want to take him to baseball games later, because I think they are really fun, but I root for whoever’s at bat so the closest he’d come to learning team loyalty is learning that it’s considered good manners to root for the home team.

    Sorry, I’m rambling, this is a lot to think about!

  7. That is a great list of accomplishments!
    ;D
    If I become a parent, I definitely don’t want to circumcise. That is something I’ll have to talk with my man about more if we decide to have kids — I’ve mentioned it, told him my reasoning a little, but I’m not sure that he totally understands…and now I’m thinking to say any more would be too much on a public blog! ;p

    Co-sleeping seems cool. ;p
    & I’m definitely in favor of breastfeeding!

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