Comments on: Give and take

By: Ewokmama

Ewokmama — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 06:48:20 +0000

Yeah, I think being a mom makes it particularly hard to ask for help. I’m supposed to have the answers for my kid and often he refuses help from anyone else anyway. I also struggle with feeling like asking for help is asking for a favor and then I’ll owe something in return. And then it’s hard for me to ask David for help with Jack because I feel like it’s my responsibility to take care of my son. It’s a weird feeling to get over!

By: B

Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:11:47 +0000

I'm the same exact way. I hate asking for help and often don't know how to do so. Luckily, I married a caretaker, too. One of the big attractions once we started dating was how he was the first person in my life, outside of my family, who was in tune with what I may need/want. I was in shock when I realized it, and realized it was coming from as genuine a place as my caretaking did. I snatched him up and never looked back. Still, even with him, it's been hard as The Mom to ask for help. A daily struggle for balance, and as you said, that fear that you'll ask for too much and what those consequences could be. .-= B´s last blog ..Soup =-.

By: Ewokmama

Ewokmama — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 01:08:13 +0000

My therapist asked me yesterday if people knew when *I* needed help and I didn’t really have an answer. I’m really, really trying, though. I can’t help but fear that I’ll accidentally ask for too much.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 00:52:45 +0000

I, too, know how hard it is to ask for help. I'm thankful that TheMister knows how hard it is for me and he asks me continually if I need things. It's good to have caregivers for our caregiving self. <3 .-= Sarah´s last blog ..motivating, blogging, debating, working and asking =-.