Aside from our current issues with cancer and medications and such (which I’m sick to death of talking about), we’ve had a very challenging time with getting into a routine for taking Jack to school and commuting to work. I’ve spent a lot of time (while sitting in traffic) wondering how in the world other two-earner households manage it, particularly when living in a big metropolitan area.
Currently, I have some flexibility on my work hours but in general I work 9-5. David works 9-6 and his hours are NOT flexible.
Our plan was to have David take Jack to school in the mornings (school starts at 8:10) and get to work by 9. Jack attends an after-school program that is open until 6:15, so I had planned to work 8:30-4:30 so that I could pick him up in plenty of time before the end of the after school program.
Unfortunately, traffic here has completely exploded lately. Our commutes, which used to take about 45 minutes each way, have expanded. Today it took me TWO HOURS to get into the office. When combined with delays in getting out of the house due to medication administration issues, mornings have been filled with stress. We’ve both been late to work several times now. I left work at 4:30 yesterday and got to Jack’s school at 6; he was the last kid left waiting to be picked up. And then that leaves us with two hours to get home, get Jack’s dinner prepared and eaten, administer his medications (two of which have to be taken an hour after dinner), get him bathed (if there’s time), and get him to bed.
We’ve been failing at bedtime, that’s for sure. We’re lucky if he’s asleep by 9:30.
How in the world do others in this area make their schedules work with their kids? Surely not every household has a stay-at-home-parent or family member! Do the rest of them have nannies? Not that we could afford that… And I wish part time work was an option! We can’t afford that, either, even if I could find an employer to pay me the hourly rate I’m getting now for being there only half the time.
It’s all kind of ironic because I’m an executive assistant by trade. I manage schedules and make impossible meetings happen all the time! I can’t seem to do it for my family, though. I can’t think of a solution.