Truthiness Day 30: My Love Letter

Day 30 → A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself.

Dear Self,

This is not an easy letter to write.  I definitely have a love/hate relationship with you.  I’m hoping the scale tips to more love as I age and get more therapy.  For now, here are the things I can say I love about you without reservation.

I love your ability to mobilize and get things done.  Once you have a clear task in front of you, it’s pretty awesome to see how it all comes together.  You also make it look pretty easy.  It’s like you have an invisible map or set of directions that only you can see.

Your ability to produce an amazing little kid is awesome.  I love you for your part in that.

I love your survival instinct.  Somehow you manage to navigate out of bad situations and keep yourself protected.  Somehow you ended up making it to a good spot in life despite the background from which you came.  You are also in pretty good working condition, considering…

You are very skilled at analysis and breaking situations down into simpler pieces.  I like that you can see both the facts and the emotions that are influencing people.  It’s a great thing that you can accept the feelings of others even if you can’t do anything about them – that may help them more than you, but it is still admirable.

I love your goofiness, sense of humor, and willingness to laugh at your own jokes (after all, someone has to!).  You never lost it, even when you were teased about it.  The expressiveness that goes along with the sense of humor is fantastic, too, although I could do without the forehead wrinkles.

Your hips, butt, and boobs are all pretty great.

Um…yeah.  I can’t come up with anything else.  Maybe because I value your modesty, as well.  😉

Love,
Crystal

That’s the last of them!  Whew, that was tough.  If you  missed any of my posts in this series, you can check them all out under the “30 Days of Truth” category.

Time to do the money dance

Today is a momentous day.  Today David was offered a job.  Wait, it’s not just a job offer.  It’s a good job offer.  We are a happy, happy household!!

David and I met at the end of August 2009.  When December rolled around, he (and his co-workers) had already taken a pay cut in order to attempt to stay employed.  The paycut didn’t work out so well and layoffs began (I believe David was laid off the day after my birthday).  This was, of course, in the middle of a terrible economic decline that was only going to get worse.  He got a few bites on applications but they disappeared into thin air and then stopped altogether when the economy hit rock bottom.  Things have slowly begun to recover but it’s been a loooooong year.

A few days ago David got a less than good offer from a company in Silicon Valley…hourly pay for a position different from what he applied for that came with a 3 hour RT commute and no medical benefits.  Oh and it would be a two month contract.  In the words of the manager offering him the position, “It’s better than what you have now, right?”  Not only was he left feeling like he was being taken advantage of because of the market, but all of those downsides AND working for a jerk?  So not worth it!  Still, he thought about it.  We talked it over – talked about how to make our separate commutes work with one car and little in the way of public transit options.  We discussed what life would be like for the next few months before the contract ended and he was unemployed again.  His unemployment benefit extensions have run out and his last check was arriving this week.  So of course, the decision was not easy, but David ultimately turned it down because our entire life would be turned upside down for two months of minimal paychecks.  In addition, there was this other job that looked like it was going to come through and it wouldn’t require nearly as much lifestyle rearrangement…

David’s last unemployment check came in the mail yesterday.  Today, he was offered a job.  Full time, salaried, health benefits, permanent employment.  He totally snatched that puppy up!

Tonight we are celebrating the end of this search and doing our version of the money dance.  We’ll say goodbye to self doubt, daily financial strain, and worry over equal contribution in the household.  Starting next week, we get to enjoy living together without the cloud of unemployment hanging over our heads, something we haven’t been able to do for most of our (fairly new) relationship.  We are SO looking forward to the less stressful days ahead!