Summer Tastes Like Freedom

dance-32193_640School’s out for the summer! YEAH!

This is big for us. Probably bigger (and better) than it is for most households. See, during the school year, Jack spends weekdays at our house and then all but one weekend a month with his dad (who lives an hour away). In the summer the schedule flips, so we will actually get to enjoy weekends and have leisure time with Jack on a regular basis! We’ll get to have play dates with his friends, too.

Not to mention that for the next two months our household will have a break from:

  • Homework
  • Packing lunches (with foods Jack hasn’t gotten sick of)
  • Strict bedtimes
  • Dragging Jack out of bed for school
  • Worrying about Jack going to bed on time
  • Being late or calling into work due to Jack feeling ill
  • The small annoyance of Jack’s teacher spelling his last name wrong regularly (it drives me NUTS)

David and I will definitely be enjoying the quiet time on weekdays, too. With our baby due at the end of August, this is going to be the last couple of months where we get to have stretches of time alone together without any kids to take care of. We will enjoy that little perk of shared custody while we can!

We have an exciting summer ahead of us for other reasons, as well. Jack’s 8th birthday is July 13. His Make-a-Wish is underway and he should have a completed TARDIS console in his room by the end of summer. In early August Jack is scheduled to go to Camp Okizu’s oncology summer camp where he’ll be away from his parents for a whole week – EEP. We are nervous about it and we’re not sure he’ll actually stay the whole week, but we figure we’ll give it a try. We think it will be good for him to get a little independence.

August will bring our baby and a new school year – Jack will start the 3rd grade. And then things will get messy (messier) again.

So for now, I’m going to try to enjoy a little bit of freedom!

Doing Everything And Nothing

How is it that a household can be so busy and yet not really doing anything of substance? Summer is almost gone and I can’t really point to anything that has happened in the last couple of months that would have made it go by so quickly. It’s just POOF! Gone!

Maybe it’s a bunch of little things that when added up create a sense of time being compressed. David has been volunteering for a LOT of overtime so nearly every weekend has him working at least some of the time (helping us pay off debt!). Jack and I have been spending a lot of time together on the weekends building legos, watching Dr. Who, and crafting. Other than that, there hasn’t been a lot of entertaining and our house is only marginally cleaner than it was at the beginning of the summer. Although we did move a few pieces of furniture around and bought some house plants.

At least some of the time has gone to catching up on all the television shows people have been raving about for the last year. We got caught up on Homeland (so good!), watched House of Cards (WOW!), and we’re almost done with Orange is the New Black (addictive!). I’ve zipped through the UK’s version of Being Human (loved it), season 1 of Scandal (meh, but the people are pretty), and the latest season of True Blood (not my favorite season). I’m now onto Luther and worried about running out of streaming shows to watch for free (we have Amazon Prime, HBO & Showtime, and are borrowing a friend’s Netflix)! ๐Ÿ˜›

Last week our dog had one of his canine teeth pulled and that was quite a production. I’ve never seen him as miserable as he was after that! He’s doing a lot better now but for the first day and a half after, he had no real interest in eating or drinking anything. He was put on three different pain killers and David and I have been taking turns working from home until he’s fit to go back to doggie daycare. He was dancing around like a goofball this morning when I was leaving the house, so I think he’s almost ready to go back.

Yesterday I submitted the five million forms it takes to get Jack registered for school. He starts next Tuesday and we won’t find out until Monday which teacher he will get. We don’t know any of the second grade teachers, so I’m not sure that it matters, but I think he would be more excited about starting back if he knew whether he’s in the same class as his best friend this year. So far he is not interested in going back to school. He has worried more than once that the next day might be a school day, so that has me nervous, as well. After such an easy-breezy summer, I worry we may have a tough transition on our hands. I’m trying not to focus on it too much until it happens, though. One more week to soak in the lack of schedule!

So that is my less-than-exciting update. I am looking forward to Type-A Parent Conference in a little over a month when I am rooming with my girl Jana again! Woohoo! Can’t wait to see my peeps!

It’s A Bittersweet Summer

Jack has been out of school for over two weeks now. I officially have a 2nd grader! (gulp)

Since school is out, our shared custody schedule has switched. Jack is at my house on most weekends and at his dad’s during the week. And with this change – for the first time since he was diagnosed with Leukemia in January 2012 – I’ve completed a full month of work with no sick days! And I’ve already managed to get the rest of the year plotted out for work – I’m ahead on everything there.

Not surprisingly, my stress level has gone down over the last couple of weeks. David and I are carpooling, which has cut my commute time in half! I’m not doing the whole rigamarole on Sundays of dosing out five billion pills for the week ahead. Instead of trying to wrangle Jack AND time in the mornings and at night five days a week, it’s down to two. And the time Jack and I spend together on weekends is all quality since we don’t have to worry about work or school the next day. It’s pretty goddamned glorious!

It’s all bittersweet, though. I’ve never spent such short jags of time with my kid before. It’s really hard to let him go back to his dad’s on Sundays. I cried last week for the first time in a while because two days with him wasn’t enough. I miss him and I don’t know what to do with myself.

I expected my house to get cleaner with all of this extra time but so far that hasn’t quite been the case. (Although, I have to say, my dining room table has stayed less cluttered and I’ve actually had time to put the laundry away!) Instead I’ve been spending more quality time with my husband, resting, getting caught up on my shows, experimenting with mandalas and zentangling, and hanging out with friends more.

I’m mostly loving it. It doesn’t feel complete without Jack but I will have him back with me 80% of the time by the end of August and then I’m sure I’ll be dreaming of next summer. ‘Cause the grass is always greener, right?