Me: “Jack, why is it that every time I’m totally fed up with you, you then go and do something totally adorable?”
Jack: “Because I’m two and a half.”
Parenting Left of the Middle
Me: “Jack, why is it that every time I’m totally fed up with you, you then go and do something totally adorable?”
Jack: “Because I’m two and a half.”
Jack spent most of Saturday naked. He refused to wear even a diaper or “big boy underwear.” No pants, either. I am completely out of ideas and just trying to hold onto my patience (and failing). Getting him out of the house is pretty impossible. In order to get him to his dad’s yesterday we distracted him with a book long enough to get his diaper and pants and socks on, then the gig was up. I grabbed him and stole away quickly to the car to wrestle him into his carseat before he could disrobe. He cried and fought the entire time.
I don’t have a problem with him running around naked but it would be nice to be able to leave the house. Also we had guests over and I had to explain that Jack has decided to become a nudist and is potty training. He is grasping the toilet idea really well and has gone pee in the potty several times, but I have cleaned up several messes of both types and his bed now stinks of pee because he keeps stripping in the middle of the night.
Any and all ideas and input are welcome. This has been an extremely challenging time and it feels like the newborn stage in so many ways. I feel powerless! At the same time I am proud of Jack for deciding to grow up. It’s just that it’s happening so quickly!
Jack woke up around 4am last night and totally stripped. He didn’t want to wear pajamas, socks, or a diaper. He peed all over his bed. It took me about an hour and a half to negotiate him back into his clothes. In the end I bribed him with chocolate.
This morning he didn’t want to wear a diaper or clothes AGAIN. After trying unsuccessfully for an hour to get him dressed, I turned to David who managed to get him to “fly like an airplane” into his “airplane clothes.” And then all was well.
Reverse psychology works sometimes…but not in the case of getting him dressed. He is getting more and more stubborn and even *I* can’t out-stubborn him. I try to give him choices but he snubs them all. I try to put my foot down and force him to do things after the nice way doesn’t work and he just rips off his clothes anyway. I try reverse psychology with limited success. Bribery only works if I can figure out what he finds to be incredibly valuable.
I’m exhausted and frustrated. How long does this phase last??
Jack is an amazing little boy. I’m shocked by how quickly he is maturing in so many ways! Some of it is frustrating but it can be hilarious at the same time. A few days ago he started using the words but and um. Our conversations went something like this:
Jack, would you like some cheese?
But no.
Really? Aren’t you hungry? Maybe yogurt or raisins?
But no.
Well, why are you awake in the middle of the night if you’re not hungry?
Um, no.
I think you get the idea…
The boy is obsessed with doing things that adults around him are doing. If I am wearing a coat, he has to wear one. Same with shoes. This can be annoying when he doesn’t want to wear a coat or shoes because then no one else is allowed to wear them, either. He is clearly trying to figure out rules and order in the world around him. It’s funny when it’s not aggravating. It comes in handy when he wants to help with household chores. I don’t like it so much when he gets bossy, “Mama, you take your shoes off!”
Recent interests include planes, trains, dinosaurs, The Muppet Movie (mainly rainbows and Fozzie Bear), tools, balls, and Wii (“Look Mama, I’m playing tennis!” as he swings his dino to and fro). He also loves to wear my shoes and carry my purse. He is not quite as enthusiastic about monsters or pirates as he was a few months ago but they are still in the top 10. He loves his stuffed animals and usually carries one everywhere we go (especially Big Mouse and his bunny). He is fantastic at pretend play, acting out various scenarios with his toys and stuffed animals.
He hates shoes. He loves his sandals, which are clearly not appropriate for this time of year, and he will consent to wearing his replacement red/brown shoes for limited periods of time before screaming to get them off. I bought a couple other pairs of shoes and try to let him choose which shoes he wears but he is so not into it. We have 4 pairs of See Kai Run (including the sandals), some Converse, and a pair I bought at Kohls and he will only wear the sandals and the red/brown shoes! Is this an age thing??? I’ve been relying a lot on reverse psychology. “Jack, we can’t go outside unless you have your shoes on. So you stay here and I’ll see you later. Bye bye.” He generally straightens up and demands his shoes at that point. I usually only pull this when he is going to have to walk. Mostly I could care less whether he wears shoes or not, but he’s not going to be walking around our apartment complex barefoot.
Jack is neat and quite concerned about order. He puts away his shoes when he takes them off (even when I am not paying any attention to it), asks for wipes to clean his hands when they have stray bits of food on them, pulls his “sleeping blanket” up to his neck in bed, and gets really upset if daily routines are disturbed. When we get home from daycare, we take our coats off, then our shoes, then we sit on the couch and have milk. When coats go on they must be buttoned or zipped, and thumbs have to make it into the designated compartment of the mitten.
After 2.5 years, Jack has finally decided that our cat Wicket is his friend. This means that he doesn’t climb on top of him quite as often – sometimes he will sling his arm over Wicket’s back and say “He’s my friend.” Wicket still hasn’t learned to stay away from Jack, though. It would be a lot easier to protect him if he didn’t go running right back to Jack after we extract him from a wrestling match.
And diapers…Jack is clearly aware of what is going on in there but still refuses to consider the potty. A couple of weekends he asked me, “Do you want a new diaper?” because he had pooped (he often asks me questions that he wants me to ask him). When I ask him if he has peed or if he needs a new diaper, though, he replies, “No, I don’t want a new diaper. It’s all better now.” So I’m keeping it low pressure but talking up what big boys do and reading books on the subject. Jack sees what goes in the toilet and likes to tear pieces of tissue off the roll to throw into the bowl. He stands in front of his own little potty and pretends to pee. He obviously has the right idea but is not taking the initiative. I’m not concerned about it, though.
He is still a chatty little guy. He will sit in his carseat on road trips and have conversations with his toys. Sometimes he repeats things he has heard: “You don’t push your friends.” and “You sit down right here for time out.” and “Fucking cats!” which was a mistake on my part when Wicket and Blue tripped me with their fighting underfoot. Ever since a truck stopped for no reason on the highway, he has been repeating, “Stupid truck blocking traffic!” Hilarious.
I’m having tons of fun with Jack. I’m so lucky to know and nurture this kid! He is growing into the happy, confident, creative little boy that I saw glimpses of when he was a baby.
I ended up buying a bigger pair of the shoes Jack loves so much. A day after I placed the order on TinySoles.com his big toe rubbed a hole in the too-small pair, so it was just in time. He either hasn’t noticed the difference with the new shoes or is happy just to be able to wear his “brown shoes” without being offered other choices first. Thank goodness I could find the same kind; I don’t believe See Kai Run is still manufacturing that particular shoe. Yay for old inventory! I probably should have gotten the next few sizes…
Jack has grown a ton in the last couple months. He is at least an inch taller and he is growing out of his size 6 shoes. I have stocked up on bigger shoes in 7 and 8 – some cute Converse and awesome See Kai Run shoes. Unfortunately, Jack refuses to wear them (if I can get them on, he throws a screaming fit until I take them off). I don’t get it. The ends of his shoes are fraying from rubbing against his toes that are obviously getting squished in there and yet he still refuses to wear any of the 3 new pairs of shoes I bought for him.
I am not sure what to do. He can’t wear his sandals (which still fit) in the rain! I wonder if he has gotten attached to the color of his old shoes? Would it work if I bought him the same shoes in the bigger size? Any suggestions?
I’ve been a dreadful blogger and for that, I offer sincere apology. I will try to be better!
Here’s the lowdown on what’s been going on…
Joe started his new job but still had to finish off part of the season at his old job. He is now on his twelfth straight day of work (with 3 more days to go). The commute to the new job is 1.5 each way. Luckily, he totally loves his new job! Aside from that, our apartment is a mess and we get about 20 minutes each day to talk to one another. I have to leave early for work in the morning, and he gets home late. We are tired as all hell.
Jack had a pediatric check up. He now weighs 27 lbs 6 oz and measures 33.5 in. He’s a little on the short side but perfectly healthy. Oh, and his head is huge just like his daddy’s.
Jack and I have had a cold. I lost most of my voice yesterday and am still recovering. At least I don’t have snot interwoven with my hair like my son.
I read the book Happiest Toddler on the Block. It was fantastic and I have started using some of the “toddlerese” techniques when Jack throws a huge fit. It helps much more than I expected (also kind of annoying: caveman speak resulted in giving Jack the keys to the kingdom. He is now VERY fond of the phrase “I don’t like it!” I suppose it’s better than screaming.). One of the things Dr. Karp recommends is to gossip with your child’s toys to persuade them to do something (because everyone is more attentive when the suddenly hear whispering). It was hilarious to see Jack’s reaction when I started talking to his previously-unnoticed Ugly Doll who we call Monster. Now he will not let that thing out of his sight! Jack has starting talking for the monster in a gravelly voice; he doesn’t realize the monster isn’t supposed to call Joe “Daddy.” We are constantly saying, “Yes, I like monsters.”
I updated Jack’s shutterfly albums with our pictures from Maryland.
I saw Sex & The City and loved it! I’ve heard others who were disappointed but I think they failed to drink a cosmo beforehand.
We received the Sumbuns pocket diapers (one velcro, one snap) that I wrote about a few weeks ago. I love the size and fit and they are damned cute. My only beef is that the slit for the insert is located at the front of the diaper and the fleece overlaps, which makes it a little difficult to shake the insert out when wet. On diapers with the slit to the rear, I can usually find a dry spot at the end of the insert to manually pull it out if necessary without getting my fingers soaked with urine. Not so when the slit is in the front. If that doesn’t bother you, I have no other complaints and may even buy more because the fit is so good!
Also, on diapers. Jack is outgrowing the “one-size” BumGenius and Haute Pockets diapers. He is literally bursting out of the Haute Pockets, and the BG’s are leaving red marks on his hips. I am thinking about replacing all of our BG’s and HP’s with Happy Heinies one-size diapers because I love them so! I don’t mind buying one-size diapers this late in the game because we can either save them for the next kiddo or sell them to one of the many people I know who are going to have a baby in the coming year.
Oh! Potty training. Jack has started throwing fits when we take off or put on a diaper. Methinks he is approaching potty-readiness. Of course, he won’t even look at the potty but still! I ordered potty books for him and we are going to start slowly. If he didn’t hate being naked, I would probably try the naked time technique but alas, the boy is modest. I don’t mind that, to be honest.
I still dislike my haircut.
See you soon!
Please tell me that my son is acting like a lunatic because he has two molars coming in and not because of his age. ‘Cause seriously, this needs to end soon. He is like velcro at the moment – abusive, dramatic, cranky velcro. Everything is such a big deal!
It MUST be teeth because he doesn’t want to eat much of anything, he only wants to drink copious amounts of milk. He wanted to nurse earlier in the evening yesterday, then decided to shun my breasts for his straw cup of “chocolate” milk (which in our house is code for regular whole cow’s milk).
He didn’t want to build, or color, or play guitar, or read. He just wanted me to hold him (and ONLY me) and carry him around. Which would have been okay if he didn’t start hitting me over the head or smacking me in the face. Also, it was hot yesterday and he weighs a ton, but I would have held him anyway if he would snuggle with me instead of beating me.
He refused to go to bed until after 10pm, and at that point would not even nurse down. He instead chose to drink more “chocolate” milk, then flopped around the bed for a good 30-45 minutes before falling asleep. He was up for the day at 6am. Oy.
This is just a short phase. This cannot be the terrible twos. I mean, the part where he flipped out a few nights ago because Joe insisted that he take his socks and diaper off to get into the bath – that was most definitely a symptom of terrible twos. But this nutty toddler who has been with us for almost a week now is so unlike my smiley Jack and OMG, the thought of a year of Emo Jack is enough to send me into a fit!
Yesterday was one of those not-so-fun type of parenting days. Jack was in the midst of Terrible Twodom (and yeah, he’s not 2 yet!). Fits galore, making it difficult to even get out of the house for my brunch (damn it, I was having my brunch even if I had to go by myself!!!). Jack is too strong for me to handle when he is in a fit, so Joe had to take over trying to get him in the carseat. There was no way to entice him to sit down (usually a bribe works, or a forbidden object such as a cell phone) so Joe had to pin him down while I helped buckle the straps. All because Jack wanted to stand in the carseat and yell at the back of the car.
Brunch was great. I got a free mimosa and delicious gingersnap pancakes. Jack was entertained by his crayons and coloring book, ate well (including eggs, which he usually disses) and I felt so happy. This is the part of the day I will try to keep foremost in my memory!
We spent the day at BIL & SIL’s so that Joe could help Justin put together a gazebo. Jack was running around everywhere and getting into everything so he went from banging on the window to playing with the wine rack to giving himself power bombs on the bed to snatching his uncle’s cell phone to stealing his cousin’s toys…worn out, I fell asleep putting him down for a nap in the afternoon.
Dinner was fabulous, as was dessert (I had two helpings, yum!). SIL is an awesome cook! Afterward, Jack started to completely melt down. We got out of there when he started chanting “I want I want I want I want” over and over, wrestled him into the carseat again, and headed home. Jack flipped out some more there, and started hitting me with fists and books. When I told him not to hit me, that it hurt, to give hugs instead, he laughed in my face. Joe had no more luck. So infuriating! I don’t know if this is just a toddler thing, or something he learned at daycare, but my kid hitting me makes me want to cry! He also kept biting me during nursing and continued to hit when I was trying to put him to sleep. So my mother’s day gift from my son? Abuse.
I was amazed when Jack was a baby that he was such a sweet little guy, so unlike me and apparently a little clone of Joe. I was sure I’d get a sassy, stubborn child that was just like I was as a kid (okay, I’m still like that…). Alas, it seems that he was just biding his time before showing all his cards. What scares me most is that no adult was ever able to sway me as a child…so I am facing a littler version of myself and I have no idea what to do.
“I like blue and green and yellow and orange and purple!” (Purple is actually his favorite, and he points it out at every opportunity. He can’t identify many colors, but he sure knows purple.)
“I like tea!” and “I like guitars!” and “I like cookies!”
“I want I want I want I want I want”
Arms stretched out behind him, he runs around the living room. Our best guess is that he is flying.
Spatulas make great guitars.
Boats=pirates. Water=pirates. Skulls=pirates. Sabrina=pirates. ”See pirates? Yarrr!”
Overheard on the baby monitor when he woke up from his nap yesterday, “Oh, man!”
All milk except for mama’s is “chocolate milk.”
He snubbed cupcakes (twice!) yesterday in favor of cucumbers, carrots, and grapes.
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