I don’t generally presume to give parenting advice. I tend to think that people should make their own mistakes in order to learn from them, and then of course half the time things that look like mistakes aren’t actually mistakes (there are probably many of us out there who wondered why that mom was drinking wine while breastfeeding and then went on to pop out a kid and realize that wine is perfectly fine and even the BEST THING sometimes [sidenote: I still don’t endorse getting drunk while caring for children – a caregiver needs to have their wits about them as much as possible. This is where it helps to have a partner to watch the kid while you do your thing.]).
Anyway, there are quite a few people in my life who are either currently trying to expand their family, or getting married soon and might wish to expand their family in the future. Because of this, I am breaking my own rule in order to share the the best thing I’ve learned about since becoming a parent: inertia.
Y’all might remember learning about inertia in school. The dictionary defines it as a property of matter by which it remains at rest or in uniform motion in the same straight line unless acted upon by some external force. Here’s how it relates to kids: it’s easier to keep the the kid happy than it is to fix what made them unhappy.
A baby who isn’t crying from hunger will nurse better.
Sleep begets sleep: a baby who has napped well will sleep better at night.
A child who gets the attention he needs from his parents will also enjoy solitary play.
If you know your kids, if you are paying attention, you can anticipate their needs, prevent problems, and resolve issues more quickly. Keep the ball rolling, keep the kid happy, and things will be easier for everyone.
The end. 🙂