Yesterday I met with Jack’s principal and the district nurse to update our 504 plan. We are getting access to a home educator three hours per week to work with Jack when he can’t make it to school. I have to give HUGE props to Jack’s teacher – she has really stepped up to get us support and arranged this meeting in the first place. I can’t even express my overwhelming gratitude toward her! I’ve been much too occupied with trying to get Jack’s health stabilized and was just going to wait on the school issue (especially since he was keeping up anyway). But it was done for me! People can be really amazing!
I brought a letter with me from our oncology office regarding the need for IEP assessment, as well. Back in the spring when I requested an IEP process be started, I apparently did not do it in the exact right way because the district ignored it and had the school work with us on a 504 plan only. I didn’t fully understand the difference between IEP and 504 at the time, so I didn’t push the issue. Since then, I’ve learned a lot more about supporting kids with cancer in school and seen that even this far out, new side effects can pop up. At Camp Okizu earlier this year it was made clear that IEPs are really important for kids with cancer because even if they aren’t showing any significant issues right now, late-term effects are very common. Baseline testing can be really, really valuable when/if problems pop up later.
So when Jack was hospitalized in August, I brought up the issue with the hospital social worker and she drafted a beautiful letter for us! I’ve been sitting on the letter because Jack has barely been IN school anyway – it could always come later, I thought.
The principal took the letter in stride, but the district nurse was clearly flustered by it. Immediately reasons why she thinks we don’t need an IEP came pouring forth. I don’t completely disagree with her – Jack has to be in school to get services and he’s barely been there at all right now. Plus, the IEP requires a lot of assessments and that can be strenuous.
But then the district nurse said, “Well, treatment has come a LONG way! Most kids don’t have any lasting effects!”
And then I kind of wanted to punch her.
I wanted to tell her about how few new treatments have been approved for use in children and that oncologists are still using the same drugs developed between 1950-1970. In fact, the FDA has only approved ONE new drug exclusively for pediatric patients in the last 20 years – despite the fact that the prevalence of childhood cancer has risen 20% in that same time frame*.
I wanted to tell her that she’s wrong – in fact, two thirds of kids will have long-lasting chronic conditions that are caused by the very treatment saving their lives.
I wanted to point out that while more kids are surviving cancer, side effects from treatment are still a huge challenge. Quality of life for childhood cancer survivors needs a lot of improvement.
I didn’t say those things, but I did tell her that Jack had been screened for sensory issues and further testing was recommended. I informed her that we’ve already seen an impact on his abilities in math and physical education. I told her we need a baseline in case he has complications later.
“Well, we don’t want to push him physically when he is going through treatment,” she said.
Ugh. First, you don’t need to tell ME that. Second, that’s not what this is about, lady! It’s about preventing further decline and ensuring the best possible future for Jack.
The nurse did point out that an IEP does not provide a home educator, which makes the 504 more beneficial at this time. But the home educator was apparently a special benefit anyway and it ends January 7th. Because of that, we agreed to stick with the 504 for now and then meet again to reassess in January (which happens to work anyway – not much to be done about any of this during the holidays).
I came out of the meeting with mixed feelings. I am happy that the school is supporting Jack with the 504 plan and there was absolutely no hesitation as far as that was concerned. I’m a bit concerned about future struggles related to the IEP and assessments, though. I’ve heard a lot of negative things from other parents trying to get IEPs for their kids and based on this interaction, I’m just not confident that this will be easy.
At least I’m getting better at dealing with hard things, right?
Later in the afternoon I picked Jack up from school. One of his classmates came up to ask me if Jack really did have cancer and how he got it. I told her yes, he does, and we don’t know how he got it – sometimes people just get cancer. She seemed like she had more questions, but Jack started pulling on my arm and she walked away.
I hope we didn’t scare her. I wanted to give her a better answer but I didn’t have one. As much as I’d like to deny the reality of what we are living with, sugarcoating it isn’t the right answer.
* Source: Unsung Heroes by the American Childhood Cancer Association, published 2011. (This link opens a PPT file.)